Why girls need to be empowered with information

Erm.... yeah. I didn't die. I'm still alive.  Anyway, Jaja Shah-Mohen posted this topic on her wall today and I really would like to talk about it,  for the simple fact that I'm sick of people who act holier than thou.

http://health.yahoo.net/news/s/ap/us_med_morning_after_pill#.TuIARIWGrro.facebook

Basically what this link is about is that Barack Obama is saying it is common sense not to sell morning after pills to girls under the age of 17.   I am saying, don't ban the sale to under age girls. Just don't promote it as the last resort either. 

Firstly let's get this straight.  I am not advocating that kids still at schooling age to have free sex whenever they feel like it.  BUT what year are we in? Free porn is everywhere.  Kids will have sex. And they will do it more than 4 times in a month.  But if you've bought these morning after pills before, you'd know that you're not supposed to eat them more than 4 times in a month.  It really affects your bones and these are stuff you feel it almost instantaneously.  Every time I go in the pharmacy to buy something and you're told to write your details in the log book,  I can see a trend of girls buying Postinor.

And I really hate this,  because those girls are probably told it is okay to eat this morning after pills as a last resort.  "We are not sexually active. We only do this what? 7 times a month?????" Yeah right. Please lah.

I am writing this from an angle of someone who has been abused since 6-7 years old until I was 17.  I'm not going to go into details because I have learnt things the hard way that it doesn't make people understand why I am the way I am.  But I'm still going to write it, because I want people who act like they are so damn goody to wake up and realise that YOU have a duty to tell these girls everything they need to know.  Maybe you walk away thinking, let someone else do it. It's just not going to be me.  What if NO ONE tells the girl anyway and whatever she knows is just based on what she picked up from friends WHO DON'T KNOW ANY BETTER?  Seriously???

Who are the ones pressuring the girls into having sex? Maybe it's the boy. Maybe she just wants to fit in. Maybe she was coerced into it, thinking the boy will stay and love her. Maybe she was raped. Maybe she was told this is the way of life by her stepfather.  Have you ever thought about it? Whatever it is, the onus is always on the girl to take care of herself.  If I ever have daughters, I WILL talk to them about sex and contraceptives. I'm not going to pretend it won't happen to my daughter.   If anything I've learnt so far, all the things you think WON'T happen to you, can happen and will happen.

Teach them about what happens when you have sex too early. When you're not ready. When you're coerced into it.  When you're forced into it.   Maybe you think at 14, they are too young to be on the monthly 21 day pill.  But kids are having sex as young as 11 and getting pregnant the moment they hit puberty. And girls are getting their monthly periods much earlier nowadays. WHAT are you going to do about it?

Depending on what religion you are,  I guess this dictates your decision. I'm not going to say which one is better.  For the simple fact that I am not holy. Please.  I believe in God. Period. But I'm not going to transform you. Or preach to you. I believe in God only because He is the reason I am still alive today.  He is the reason I hang on to every single thread of Hope until today.

But please lah.  Banning the sales of morning after pills to under 17 year old girls will NOT stop them from having sex. Especially if they're being forced into it.  You don't have to promote it. But really don't ban it either. It's better if the guy is wearing condoms (which doesn't break, of course)  or the girl is on a 21 day pill.  No. Withdrawal method isn't any better. She can still get pregnant. 

Okay this topic is ALOT wider and too much to cover.  I'm just saying that I disagree with what Barack Obama is doing about this.